I don’t know. Maybe it’s because I think and write about fundraising most every day, but I really am bothered when I personally encounter fundraising attempts that are just downright inconsiderate and poorly thought out.
I had two such incidents occur just this morning in my own home with my own kids.
First, one of my sons asked me for $5 on his way out the door to school. Ok, that’s not usually a big deal, but I asked him what he needed it for anyway. “I need it to pay for a pink t-shirt for my (sports) team.” Then he leaned in toward me and whispered, “You know what pink t-shirts are for, right, dad?”
I stood up straight and replied in a big booming voice, “Why yes, son, a pick t-shirt for sports teams are to support BREAST cancer research.”
He gave me the obligatory “Dad!”
I asked him how long he had known about this, and he just shrugged. Not very long was his message. And I never saw a note or anything come home about how his sports team has chosen to financially support this cause.
Now, I know my son is in middle school (not usually the most reliable bunch), and maybe he was informed about this months ago, but I don’t really think so. The team has only been practicing for a couple of weeks, you see, so I probably would have heard something…
Anyway, I know $5 is not the end of the world, and I do support the cause of breast cancer research, but I think it’s pretty un-thoughtful to ask parents to just cough up some money every time a teacher or a coach gets a wild hair about something.
And if you’ve read any of my past blog posts, you know I feel pretty strongly about keeping money raised by the school (parents) in the school- not to be shipped off to some remote and massive non-profit operation.
The “bullying” part about this is that my son felt he had to donate the money, so he could get the pink shirt and be like everyone else on the team. If he didn’t, he could be the only one not in pink and that could be hurtful, and I don’t want that to happen, so I have to give him the $5.
The second way I felt bullied by fundraising this morning was an email I got from my son’s eighth grade class. I read that there is a pizza kit fundraiser coming up to help pay for special activities for the year.
As you know, if you’ve read this blog, I’m a big supporter of telling parents the fundraising plan for the entire year, but I guess I should have made it clear that the plan should be worthy of fundraising for.
Here’s what my son’s school wants me to go sell pizza to all my friends and family for:
- A trip to a movie theater
- A trip to the ski slope
- A trip to the water park
- A trip to the high ropes course
Are you kidding me? Where’s the trip to the amusement park? To the ice cream shoppe? My daughter would love to go the mall. If I sell more pizza, can she go there, too?
Now, I know that by complaining about this, I become everyone’s scrooge. And really, if they were fundraising for new computers, more technology, more after school clubs, or ANYTHING relating to their academic education, I’d sell pizzas all day long. But not one single item on their list of field trips is going to help my child improve his academic performance. I’m sure they would counter by arguing somehow that these trips are good for building school spirit, working on enhancing relationships, and giving kids who normally don’t go to the ski slope a chance to experience something new. But, come on. Don’t kid a kidder.
I’m sure the school would tell me I don’t have to sell the pizzas or pay the opt-out fee, but if I don’t, my kid can’t go with all the other students and that would ostracize him. So, without any input, we are just bullied into selling pizzas or writing a check for play time.
This is flat-out bullying when it comes to fundraising. And, neither example I mentioned is truly benefiting my child’s education.
I strongly implore you, if you’re working in a school as a fundraiser, be smart about what you ask parents to pay for and how you ask them to pay for it. Otherwise, you’re just a bully.
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